15 Important principles from “ How to win friends and Influence people''. ~Dale Carnegie.
These Principles and lessons will make you more inclined towards your goal , make people to love you and will develop a great habit of self-consciousness in you.
Hi! Everyone . As a curious kid , I always love reading and learning , especially if it's a book. I often read 2-3 books every week , so that I could develop a habit of learning and it sparks innovations inside me.This helps me to heal myself up and makes me feel better every day. That’s why I read books . I have read “ How to Win Friends and Influence People “ by Dale Carnegie the previous month and I love this book a lot.
This book recites one theme and that is to make yourself a better person in terms of your behavior , compassion and by building your communications skills. This book will help you to learn how to handle people , how to make people instantly like you, how to convey your thoughts to others and how to win People to your way of thinking.
In this Newsletter, I will give you a brief summary of Dale Carnegie’s book - “ How to Win Friends and Influence People “ .
Let’s start by going through the Important principles of this book.
Always Smile to others
Respect others Opinion
Don’t Criticize or complain to others
When wrong , admit it quickly and emphatically.
Remember the other person’s name
Give honest and sincere appreciation
Praise even the slightest improvements
Publicly praise others accomplishments
Rather that giving orders , ask questions
Arouse an eager want within that person
Be a good listener and let others do more talking
Go out of your way to make people feel important
Encourage others ( to think big and positive)
To get the best out of an argument , avoid it.
Be emphatic , try to look at things from another person’s point of view.
Actually these are not the only things that this great book offers . There’s much more.
Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment
Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
Let the other person save face.
Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be “hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise.”
Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
Make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest.
This Book also gives us the best source of learning to handle and burn down the criticism , success , emotions and much more.
Criticism
“ Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself. Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person’s precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment. …. Any fool can criticize, condemn and complain—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”
That reminds me of this famous quote by Thomas Carlyle: “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.”
People are Emotional
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.
The Key to Influencing Others
The only way on earth to influence other people is to talk about what they want and show them how to get it.
The Secret of Success
If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as from your own.
These are the reasons why I love this book a lot . I hope that you have also learnt something well and good from my Newsletter .
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